Watch the video I linked. The effeminate boys you mention notice they aren't as strong or aggressive as other males. They typically don't have a good relationship with their father because of this. They feel like they are missing an ingredient, so to speak. 9 times out of 10, they are just slow developers, and they even out after puberty, at least to the degree of "normal guy". Maybe never a jock, and maybe still pulled towards the arts, but they will still be a man with normal sexuality if patiently loved and taught that he is still a regular boy. However, because of the emotional trauma in early childhood (often times being singled out as effeminate and not accepted by their peer group) and lack of stable, adult male connection, they become confused and it carries into their sexuality.dermdoc said:Martin Q. Blank said:Because we're not machines created off some assembly line. The same inputs will not necessarily correlate to the same outputs. Being raised in the same environment will tend to create the same choices in life (son choosing the same career path as his father, struggling with the same sins, same political parties), but not always.Quote:
And why would kids raised in the exact same environment by the same parents supposedly choose to be gay? While the other kids are straight? Are there some that are maybe "acting out" or whatever? I guess.
Some people are more strong or weak willed than others, more/less emotional, deal with anxiety differently. Given the same "prompts" and a person will end up more chubby than their sibling, more prone to alcoholism than their sibling, academics, career ambition, and a host of other things that make us all different. Despite being raised in the "exact same environment."
I don't know but being gay seems like a huge jump for me. Growing up we knew who the effeminate guys were in elementary school. Why would anybody choose that?
I mean, my grandkids are four and six and male and female respectfully. They already flirt with the opposite sex. And it seems like if one is exposed to the exact same environment as their siblings and respond differently, doesn't that mean they were wired that way?
But this only accounts for the more effimate ones. But not every gay guy is effeminate, so you can't say we can identify homosexuality in early life based on that. There are definitely gay men that have masculine phenotypes. They also have trauma and confusion in early life, but it manifests differently. All we can say is that we can identify in early life slower developers, not homosexuality.
And again, no one is CHOOSING to have homosexual desires. It is something that afflicts the person, and they must grapple with. Just like no one CHOOSES their addiction. They dabble in something and the feelings become overwhelming. But anyone who actually acknowledges they are addicted to something want to not feel that way anymore. Even if they die of liver cirrhosis, they likely did it in a spiral of self-loathing and helplessness. Most older homosexuals will tell you they would have done anything to get rid of the feeling. But that doesn't mean the feeling was engrained in them since birth.
