Wondering if any of you have ever been in a situation where you hate your job? I am currently facing a situation where my sundays are ruined because I dread going to work on Monday. I used to enjoy it, but the more I advanced the worse it has been. I have excelled, I am a high performer, but damn I hate going. Any of you face this as well, or have any advice?
Any of you hate your job?
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this used to be me. In 2018 I left that company and went to a new one.Hollywood Hogan said:
Wondering if any of you have ever been in a situation where you hate your job? I am currently facing a situation where my sundays are ruined because I dread going to work on Monday. I used to enjoy it, but the more I advanced the worse it has been. I have excelled, I am a high performer, but damn I hate going. Any of you face this as well, or have any advice?
Simply put, change jobs. Take your time changing jobs to get a better gig. If you have Sunday dread, then you are in the wrong job.
Still perform well. My company is hiring, near Hobby Airport, Houston.
Still perform well. My company is hiring, near Hobby Airport, Houston.
I went through this previously so I changed jobs after dealing with it for longer than I should. People get too comfortable with their jobs and just accept it when it starts to suck. Life is too short to dread something that you have to spend 4-5 days per week doing.
Edit to add: The dread feeling could also come from burnout. And, surprising to some, burnout doesn't just come from high workload. It can come from many other factors such as not having a clear role, feeling like you're not progressing, decisions made above you that impact your tasks, etc.
Edit to add: The dread feeling could also come from burnout. And, surprising to some, burnout doesn't just come from high workload. It can come from many other factors such as not having a clear role, feeling like you're not progressing, decisions made above you that impact your tasks, etc.
There are aspects of my job I despise. There are times when I have major burnout and just want to quit. I do hate that feeling on Sundays when you know the next week is going to ****ing suck. I feel you 100%.
But I have also come to accept that the amount of money I make demands some misery from time to time, and it's always going to be that way. I am open to other opportunities, but there is nowhere else I can go to have the same situation (a lot of freedom, only really answer to one person) and make as much money as I make.
But I have also come to accept that the amount of money I make demands some misery from time to time, and it's always going to be that way. I am open to other opportunities, but there is nowhere else I can go to have the same situation (a lot of freedom, only really answer to one person) and make as much money as I make.
There are resources to help you if you hate your job as well as if you love it and want to do it better.
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Been there, done that.
If you truly just hate your job - its time for a change. The dread, stress, etc. will eventually do you in. Look - most folks don't really enjoy their job, it is work after all. But there is a difference in not enjoying your job versus hating it. The lucky few that actually do enjoy work are exceedingly rare.
I don't hate my job, but I don't particularly enjoy it either. It's kinda boring right now and there are a lot of things outside my control that can or will have significant influence on my earning ability. It is what it is, when something better comes along i'll definitely entertain the idea of changing up again.
Unless you own the company - it's just a company, just a job. If you really hate it as much as it sounds like you do, find something you either enjoy or at the very least hate a lot less. You'll be a much happier person, trust me.
If you truly just hate your job - its time for a change. The dread, stress, etc. will eventually do you in. Look - most folks don't really enjoy their job, it is work after all. But there is a difference in not enjoying your job versus hating it. The lucky few that actually do enjoy work are exceedingly rare.
I don't hate my job, but I don't particularly enjoy it either. It's kinda boring right now and there are a lot of things outside my control that can or will have significant influence on my earning ability. It is what it is, when something better comes along i'll definitely entertain the idea of changing up again.
Unless you own the company - it's just a company, just a job. If you really hate it as much as it sounds like you do, find something you either enjoy or at the very least hate a lot less. You'll be a much happier person, trust me.
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I too have been there. There is no working your way through it. If it has gotten to this point, it is beyond repair. Keep your mouth shut and start looking.
And, don't let on how miserable you are in an interview. Nobody wants to hear that. Put on a happy face and tell them about a recent change in the culture, or lack of advancement opportunities is why you are leaving. Just like dating, nobody is looking for a miserable sack. I think you get the point I am making.
And, don't let on how miserable you are in an interview. Nobody wants to hear that. Put on a happy face and tell them about a recent change in the culture, or lack of advancement opportunities is why you are leaving. Just like dating, nobody is looking for a miserable sack. I think you get the point I am making.
I have been there, seriously considered just walking out and throwing up middle fingers. I was Director level too, PE backed company and the last 6 months of the 5.5 years I was there were nothing short of abuse and aggression amongst peers.
I'll preface by saying I have no kids and no one I have to answer to but myself. I could not imagine doing the above if I had a family without knowing I could take care of them for a substantial amount of time. I knew i could walk away and live comfortable for 18months. I went through worst case scenario when I contemplated doing it.
Well, fortunately, new CEO came in and cut about 75% of senior leadership. I was out of a job for 4 months now with a company I cannot say enough great things about.
mental health is important and no matter what anyone says, you do bring it home with you, and it affects everything - if you have kids and a family it is worse. I suggest you actively look while you are employed
I'll preface by saying I have no kids and no one I have to answer to but myself. I could not imagine doing the above if I had a family without knowing I could take care of them for a substantial amount of time. I knew i could walk away and live comfortable for 18months. I went through worst case scenario when I contemplated doing it.
Well, fortunately, new CEO came in and cut about 75% of senior leadership. I was out of a job for 4 months now with a company I cannot say enough great things about.
mental health is important and no matter what anyone says, you do bring it home with you, and it affects everything - if you have kids and a family it is worse. I suggest you actively look while you are employed
Yes. I hated my corporate gig but I had done a similar role for over 11 years. The issue is that when you hate what you do, eventually, your performance declines. I just suffered through it because I didn't have the courage to accept the risk of quitting and finding something else. About the time I couldn't stand it anymore, the company hit a downturn and let a ton of us go. At that point I decided I would work just long enough to be able to start my own business and do my own thing. I did exactly that, and I Haven't hated a day since. I found that I didn't hate the job, I hated the people I worked for and just wasn't suited to be working for someone else. That was almost 10 years ago. If I wake up Monday and don't want to go do anything, I don't, but being able to be in complete control of my income provides a level of responsibility to where I don't want to do that. I want to go work and do what I do.
I'll be in Houston tomorrow for one of our 3-day "boot camp" training programs and it's filled with people that are looking for something different.
You aren't alone. You're burned out. It's time for a change of some kind. Humans aren't meant to sit in one place for too long.
I'll be in Houston tomorrow for one of our 3-day "boot camp" training programs and it's filled with people that are looking for something different.
You aren't alone. You're burned out. It's time for a change of some kind. Humans aren't meant to sit in one place for too long.
I appreciate all of the replies and comments. I've reached out to a few recruiters who have previously contacted me, as well as friends in industry. Wish me luck!
And yes I too believe I'm just getting burned out being in the same place for so long.
And yes I too believe I'm just getting burned out being in the same place for so long.
Been there, done that. Teaching (2 separate times - same school) and wife's company. It ain't worth it. Now, I'm at a job and organization I love, and there's a ton more advancement opportunities. They have an entire dept focused on finding you the right job for you at their organization (university). They assist with resumes, networking, etc.
I actually applied for a position within the organization today even though I'm good with my current position. More $$ and closer to what I'd like to do.
Always look out for yourself. Your mental health is more important than any amount of $$.
I actually applied for a position within the organization today even though I'm good with my current position. More $$ and closer to what I'd like to do.
Always look out for yourself. Your mental health is more important than any amount of $$.
I know a lot about a little, and a little about a lot.
I am going through this now and am beyond burned out. It is an incredibly tough market in my line of work, so finding a new role has been a long and grueling process. My girlfriend said I have aged 5 years in the last 6 months. My facial hair is nearly all white and I am only 42.
This is sooooo true for me:
I think for me what is the most difficult is my commute, the number of weekend calls I take now, no clear role definitions and being pulled in so many directions. Not having a clear role is so infuriating because you become an SME on everything and everyone wants your time. There are a lot of moving parts going on and so juggling them has been tough. We are slated to shut down my facilities(coal power generation) in 2.5 years with no clear path on retention strategies, new roles after closure and many other things aligned with closure. It is difficult to look your team in the eye and not have an answer and know that none of it is in your control, it is up to the state government and C level guys.
I have given it to God and let him take control at this point. It will be what he wants it to be. This role and situation is teaching me a lot of patience, grace and being present for my people.
This is sooooo true for me:
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But I have also come to accept that the amount of money I make demands some misery from time to time, and it's always going to be that way. I am open to other opportunities, but there is nowhere else I can go to have the same situation (a lot of freedom, only really answer to one person) and make as much money as I make.
I think for me what is the most difficult is my commute, the number of weekend calls I take now, no clear role definitions and being pulled in so many directions. Not having a clear role is so infuriating because you become an SME on everything and everyone wants your time. There are a lot of moving parts going on and so juggling them has been tough. We are slated to shut down my facilities(coal power generation) in 2.5 years with no clear path on retention strategies, new roles after closure and many other things aligned with closure. It is difficult to look your team in the eye and not have an answer and know that none of it is in your control, it is up to the state government and C level guys.
I have given it to God and let him take control at this point. It will be what he wants it to be. This role and situation is teaching me a lot of patience, grace and being present for my people.
@Hoyt Ag
Hope this works out for you. Ugh!
As an experienced and should be retired technical professional, I'm hanging on as 1) I mostly like my job and role and 2) makes sense for income to feed the retirement building plus keep the health care on the employer side.
However, if you are getting dragged down, get out as soon as possible. Your mental and further physical health and family and marriage will get affected. Does not have to be immediately, but ASAP.
When interviewing, keep positive. As a hiring manager, people to whine in the interview are booted quickly from the decision process.
Also, watch out for long horrid commutes. Those will also drag you down over time.
Hope this helps.
Hope this works out for you. Ugh!
As an experienced and should be retired technical professional, I'm hanging on as 1) I mostly like my job and role and 2) makes sense for income to feed the retirement building plus keep the health care on the employer side.
However, if you are getting dragged down, get out as soon as possible. Your mental and further physical health and family and marriage will get affected. Does not have to be immediately, but ASAP.
When interviewing, keep positive. As a hiring manager, people to whine in the interview are booted quickly from the decision process.
Also, watch out for long horrid commutes. Those will also drag you down over time.
Hope this helps.
I feel this. I've been practicing law for the last 7+ years. The dread is very real. If I had a decent exit plan, I would leave, but it's hard to leave a good salary for the complete unknown and with little direct experience in other areas. I've looked at getting an MBA but again, it's hard to drop a salary for two years with a wife and kid at home.
ThenamesAg said:
I feel this. I've been practicing law for the last 7+ years. The dread is very real. If I had a decent exit plan, I would leave, but it's hard to leave a good salary for the complete unknown and with little direct experience in other areas. I've looked at getting an MBA but again, it's hard to drop a salary for two years with a wife and kid at home.
Is it the atmosphere or the type of work?
When I taught, it was a little of both, although my first principal made it far more bearable, and I didn't have that sense of dread after the first couple of years.
When I went back the second time, the next principal was horrible, and I had a sense of dread every day.
Now, I don't make quite the money, but am much happier, and my health is greatly improved. I've started a new diet, lost 30 pounds, my acid reflux has gotten better, and my blood pressure has greatly decreased. Plus, I'm working on opening a side hustle (food trailer), which I would never want to turn into a full-time gig, but which I will greatly enjoy, and which I should be very successful at.
There's always a way out; talk to your network; it's never worth it to be in a job that you dread going to every day.
I know a lot about a little, and a little about a lot.
Currently there. Got a bait and switch on job once I had already relocated. Gigantic mess to fix as we actually were not as ready for the market as the CEO claimed we were, plus he is a major ******* and takes every opportunity to cuss people out and place blame on others for his own failures.
In general, it's the combative nature of law. I enjoy the intellectual aspects but having to argue contractual provisions all day and constantly envision worst case scenarios takes its toll.
I've had some bosses that were terrible to work with, but my current boss is amazing, and I've landed in an in-house role that has fairly good WLB for the legal profession after ditching big law.
I've had some bosses that were terrible to work with, but my current boss is amazing, and I've landed in an in-house role that has fairly good WLB for the legal profession after ditching big law.
100% where I'm at right now.
Chemical Transportation Supervisor = burnout
I was in this same position from 2005 to 2013 and then I went into chemical sales which I absolutely loved. I did that for 3 years and was laid off (oilfield downturn) with the rest of the sales team. When you get laid off and have to provide for your family you may take something you don't want. (Even if the money is good)
10 years later......
Currently, quietly looking for another sales position.
Chemical Transportation Supervisor = burnout
I was in this same position from 2005 to 2013 and then I went into chemical sales which I absolutely loved. I did that for 3 years and was laid off (oilfield downturn) with the rest of the sales team. When you get laid off and have to provide for your family you may take something you don't want. (Even if the money is good)
10 years later......
Currently, quietly looking for another sales position.
Guy at my company was obviously in this place for a while, and he just left.
Lots of experience, and performed his minimum tasks well but it was obvious he had been "quiet quitting" for the last 6-8 months and while he was always polite he would do unprofessional, passive aggresive things that hindered work for everyone else there. I don't even think it was on purpose, I think he was just so fed up he couldn't see the results of his actions.
He's a good guy, we wish him well, but now that he's gone we're set up to perform 100% better.
Lots of experience, and performed his minimum tasks well but it was obvious he had been "quiet quitting" for the last 6-8 months and while he was always polite he would do unprofessional, passive aggresive things that hindered work for everyone else there. I don't even think it was on purpose, I think he was just so fed up he couldn't see the results of his actions.
He's a good guy, we wish him well, but now that he's gone we're set up to perform 100% better.
Start the job hunt. Refresh your resume. Kick networking in high gear.
I hate my career, so I don't even think another job in my industry would fix things. But if I change careers, I know I won't be able to make anywhere close to the amount of money I make now and my family's not in a place where I can take a big pay cut just because I don't like my job
What industry is that? You could always hop around to other companies and see what it's likeElephantRider said:
I hate my career, so I don't even think another job in my industry would fix things. But if I change careers, I know I won't be able to make anywhere close to the amount of money I make now and my family's not in a place where I can take a big pay cut just because I don't like my job
I had this happen. Promoted to my dream role, but my boss was a narcissist and a sociopath and he didn't like me so he made my work life hell. I quit and I've never been happier. Less money, but fk em.
Change jobs asap.
This was me when I graduated in 2007. Knew quickly that I didn't like the job/career I took out of A&M. Was hesitant to change/quit. I made it 6 years before finally pulling the trigger and completely changing careers.
Was a painful reset, but the best decision I ever made.
This was me when I graduated in 2007. Knew quickly that I didn't like the job/career I took out of A&M. Was hesitant to change/quit. I made it 6 years before finally pulling the trigger and completely changing careers.
Was a painful reset, but the best decision I ever made.
I'm there right now. I'm 48 with 18 years in. I can and will retire in 2 years. I think about it every day. My schedule and the people I directly supervise and work with are great but the culture of the agencies I work with is awful. I can handle the culture part, but I'm expected to have my phone with me at all times. I take calls after hours and weekends. I've had to walk out of church the last 3 times I've attended to take calls. I feel like I can't even enjoy swimming in our pool with the kids on the weekend because I may miss a call or an email. I cannot wait until this burden is gone.
Sounds like my job. I am always taking calls/texts. I just hired a new Sr Mgr that reports to me so that should help a ton in the after hours nonsense.
You must have done well for yourself to retire at 50.
I'm currently in this situation. I'm flat out miserable. I've been in my role for 13 years and like Hoyt, I'm in the coal industry. It's obviously a dying industry so there is no future. I have easy hours and a company truck that I can use for personal use. That's the only two reasons I've stayed as long as I have.
I live in a rural area so good jobs are hard to find around here. We are pretty grounded where we are so we don't want to move, which limits job opportunities too.
I'm sick of the commute each day. Sick of trying to hire good workers. Nobody wants to work anymore. Whatever my next job is, I do not want to supervise people.
I live in a rural area so good jobs are hard to find around here. We are pretty grounded where we are so we don't want to move, which limits job opportunities too.
I'm sick of the commute each day. Sick of trying to hire good workers. Nobody wants to work anymore. Whatever my next job is, I do not want to supervise people.
Currently in the same boat. 23 years in industrial construction and starting to hate every minute of it
Curious AggieBand, what industry is your company in? I'm thinking about new opportunities and not too far from Hobby.
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Floppy Leon said:
I'm there right now. I'm 48 with 18 years in. I can and will retire in 2 years. I think about it every day. My schedule and the people I directly supervise and work with are great but the culture of the agencies I work with is awful. I can handle the culture part, but I'm expected to have my phone with me at all times. I take calls after hours and weekends. I've had to walk out of church the last 3 times I've attended to take calls. I feel like I can't even enjoy swimming in our pool with the kids on the weekend because I may miss a call or an email. I cannot wait until this burden is gone.
You're so close to FIRE. Stop taking weekend calls. What's the worst they can do, fire you? You've got a mint, flex it. You have a massive runway.
I don't mind my job, but I've fully abandoned my career progression. 37 with a FI goal of 45. Wife has already downshifted to part-time.
For us, it took a geo relocation and hitting some financial goals. Now that we live where our hobbies can thrive, I'm so much more than my job title. Work is just an annoying thing I get through before I can ski, ride my bike, hike with the fam, etc. I make sure to stay visible and vocal for the right people, but beyond that I'm mailing it in. Nothing extra. I'm still a great team leader and invest in my people. But our culture is above-and-beyond is an expectation (build your promo case type attitude). Team's notifications turns off at 3P (work in PST for mainly EST clients) on my phone every day. I don't get email notifications on my phone at all.
I know I'm professionally capable. I can always find another job. I can generate income. No question. My wife could always scale back into her career if needed. But she won't need to. We worked hard and we can now buy our time back. Zero tolerance for work BS. Laptop shuts 2 and I don't think about work anymore. Fire me. Bet.
TLDR: Build your life outside of work and work becomes less of you.
Floppy Leon said:
I'm there right now. I'm 48 with 18 years in. I can and will retire in 2 years. I think about it every day. My schedule and the people I directly supervise and work with are great but the culture of the agencies I work with is awful. I can handle the culture part, but I'm expected to have my phone with me at all times. I take calls after hours and weekends. I've had to walk out of church the last 3 times I've attended to take calls. I feel like I can't even enjoy swimming in our pool with the kids on the weekend because I may miss a call or an email. I cannot wait until this burden is gone.
I had a gig like this where I had my phone on me 24/7. Even when I was supposed to be off. I used to sleep with my phone in my hand so I could answer the phone quicker and get back to sleep quicker. It was really short sighted looking back on it. Any job where that's a requirement is going to be in trouble if they can't handle any issues without me.
They ended losing the contract I was working on within 6 months of me leaving. It just wasn't sustainable expecting someone to solve problems 24/7. And you know what? The company didn't even care they lost it. They just moved on and found something easier for the new manager to do.
Floppy Leon said:
I'm there right now. I'm 48 with 18 years in. I can and will retire in 2 years. I think about it every day. My schedule and the people I directly supervise and work with are great but the culture of the agencies I work with is awful. I can handle the culture part, but I'm expected to have my phone with me at all times. I take calls after hours and weekends. I've had to walk out of church the last 3 times I've attended to take calls. I feel like I can't even enjoy swimming in our pool with the kids on the weekend because I may miss a call or an email. I cannot wait until this burden is gone.
I had a job like that and I ended up having to simply do a cold turkey policy. If the task couldn't be completed by 4pm Friday, no one was going to hear from me until Monday. Didn't log in. No phone calls. I had a job description and it included a 5 day work week. Outside of that….i disappeared. I had to make it such that I did my job well and not a single task more. If I'm not being paid more, you don't get more. That kind of stuff will kill you and a company will milk that crap until you are emotionally and mentally affected.
I hope you are able to get that fixed. There is always this idea that "if I don't roll over, I'll get fired." Maybe, but for me I'll take my chances. Our Asian employees would work themselves to death. Get there early, leave late, work until 10pm, work weekends, however management could abuse them, they would.
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