It's not really that complicated.10andBOUNCE said:
I think what I was mainly getting at is that everyone has to deal with the question of if God is not limited in his sovereignty, why not save everyone? Either God chooses from before the world began or He saw our choices from before the world began. Either way, God is passing over some (Calvinist) or watching man perish while knowing they will not choose him (and not intervening). If God desires all to be saved, which Scripture affirms, God is obviously not getting what he desires. Lots of hard questions that none of us will ultimately know the complete answer to.
Imperfect analogy: You and your wife are planning to get pregnant. Somehow, someway you have the foreknowledge that this child is going to grow up and hate you. He is going to choose to leave your family. You will love him, call him, ask him to come back, but he is going to choose to refuse you. You are left with two options:
1) Choose not to have the child, so that he will never be estranged.
2) Choose to have the child and love him as much as you can anyway.
I would suggest 2 is the more loving option. Number 1 is done out of a protection of your own desires at the expense of the potential child's desires. Number 2 let's the child do what they wish, and love them anyway. In number 2, you get to love those that hate you, as Jesus teaches.
Applying this to God's perfect love and Creation:
God knows everyone who will ever be born and loves them. He wants each of them to love Him freely. Not everyone is going to choose to love Him. No matter how many times He calls them, they will refuse. So God, being creator, has three options:
1) Choose to not create all of those He knows are going to reject Him
2) reprogram these people so that He can ensure that they will love Him.
3) Let these people live, hate Him, but maintain love for them anyway. He will offer intervention, but only so much as it doesn't remove their free will
I would suggest both 1 and 2 would be solely done at the selfish desires of God. To do either means that He does not actually want our free love in return. He wants obedience at all costs. Only in number 3 do we get to see perfect love in action. Perfect love includes loving those that hate you, as Jesus teaches. Anything less than allowing people to choose not to be with Him is a reality in which true love can't exist.
The only presupposition you have to accept is that God can be fully sovereign, and in that sovereignty, let us make our own choices to accept or reject Him. And no, our choice to accept Him is not completely of our own power. It is Him calling us to follow Him and us agreeing. We can't follow Him if He doesn't first call.
ETA from your other post. Allowing people to reject His work on the cross does not necessitate that He trades some of His sovereignty for it. The choice we make is because He gave it to us in the first place, as He gave it to Adam and Eve