herewegoagain said:
I want to chime in on "when is enough enough" conversation in the hopes that I might be helpful.
I'm 42 with four kids and have a net worth of just over 5M because of a successful startup exit plus some good investments a few years ago. When I walked away it was knowing I was trading likely doubling my net worth over 5 years if I was willing to stay on. But I wasn't. Not the ages my kids were and what it would have cost me in physical and emotional presence during those five years. At the end of the day I had to ask "what would I do with ten that I can't do with five" and the answer was nothing more important than our family.
Most of our money is in real estate which throws off enough for us to live on. So I get to spend my time doing stuff that feels meaningful, and I have complete control of my time. I can always go grind again if I choose. But I'll never get this time with my kids back.
Really consider the cost of what you're missing alongside the money if you think you have enough. I'm so glad I did even though very few people I know have done the same at my age.
This is good advice.
A couple years ago I did a brainstorming exercise where I wrote out all of the things I wanted to be able to do on an annual basis.
I felt like I went pretty nuts.
- Current baseline living expenses plus a big percentage and increasing annually.
- Several very luxurious vacations each year.
- Pretty significant renovation to the house plus an aggressive plan for continuing upkeep and upgrades.
- Second home.
- Continuing to set aside money to keep the cash reserves and war chest to keep up with inflation.
- Some conservative assumptions about taxes.
Don't get me wrong… this takes a pretty big chunk of money, but I was surprised to see that it was nowhere close to "you have to win the lottery" type money.
This is a little different than what herewegoagain was talking about because I was looking at it in terms of income rather than retirement savings, but I think the principle is the same.
I think the reason "when is enough enough" is so hard is because so many of us don't start out with a good definition of what we want. And to his point, a lot of times it's closer than you might think and going for that extra few million (or the bigger promotion or whatever) is only going to delay you living the life you really want.